Pregnancy Sex: Myths & Best Positions to Spice Things Up!

A VERY common topic that expecting couples often have lots of questions about but might be too embarrassed to ask. "Is it safe to have sex while pregnant?" YES it is! Is it tricky sometimes? Due to the changing hormones and belly - yes, it can be! So we are here to guide you through.

But here’s the thing: pregnancy doesn’t mean putting romance and passion on pause. It can be an opportunity to explore new ways of connecting, deepen intimacy, and embrace the beauty of your evolving body. Whether you’re craving closeness or feeling a bit nervous about changes in the bedroom, let’s talk about how to keep the spark alive and make pregnancy sex enjoyable and fulfilling.

Busting Common Pregnancy Sex Myths

Before we dive into the good stuff, let’s bust a few myths that might be holding you back:

Myth #1: Sex Can Hurt the Baby – Nope! Unless your healthcare provider has advised against it, pregnancy sex is completely safe. Your baby is well-cushioned in the amniotic sac, and they won’t “see” or “know” what’s going on (no matter how active things get!).

Myth #2: You’ll Lose Your Sex Drive Completely – Every woman is different! Some experience a dip in libido, while others feel more turned on than ever. Blame (or thank) hormones for that one!

Myth #3: Orgasms Can Trigger Labor – While orgasms cause uterine contractions, they are not the same as labor contractions. Unless your doctor says otherwise, you’re in the clear.

Myth #4: Pregnancy Means No More Fun in the Bedroom – Just because your body is changing doesn’t mean your love life has to take a backseat. In fact, many couples find new ways to enjoy pregnancy sex.

Now that we’ve cleared the air, let’s get to the fun part—ways to keep things spicy!

Best Sex Positions in Pregnancy

Your growing belly might make some go-to positions uncomfortable, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up on pleasure. Here are a few pregnancy-friendly sex positions to explore:

1. Spooning

This is a classic sex position in pregnancy for a reason! Lying side by side keeps pressure off your belly while allowing deep connection and intimacy.

2. Reverse Cowgirl

If you’re feeling energetic, this position allows you to control depth and pace while keeping weight off your bump.

3. Edge of the Bed

Lying on your back with your hips at the edge of the bed can be comfortable, especially if your partner is standing or kneeling in front of you.

4. Seated Straddle

Sitting on your partner’s lap (either facing them or turned away) is great for maintaining eye contact and deepening connection. Works well with the growing belly too! 

5. All Fours (Modified Doggy Style)

If you find doggy style uncomfortable, try propping yourself up with lots of pillows under your chest for extra support.

6. Standing Embrace

Standing face-to-face, leaning against a wall or counter for support, can be a romantic and deeply connected way to enjoy pregnancy sex without putting pressure on your belly.

Remember, communication is key! Listen to your body, take it slow, and don’t be afraid to adjust as needed and COMMUNICATE!

Non-Traditional Intimacy: Beyond Sex

Not feeling up for intercourse? Sometimes sex in pregnancy can be challenging or just not desired. That’s completely normal and A.O.K! Intimacy is not just about sex—it’s about closeness, connection, and pleasure in many forms. Here are some alternative ways to keep the romance alive:

1. Belly Massage

A gentle, loving massage can be incredibly intimate. Imagine this. Your partner lights the room with candles, puts on soft music and pulls out a special Tummy Balm to give you a full belly massage, including your shoulders and back! This can feel soothing, and nurturing to the mom, showing her love for growing a baby. 

Grab this Toning Tummy Balm here and let the belly massages begin!

2. Shower or Take a Bath Together

The warmth of the water, the steam, and the chance to touch and just be close to each other can be a beautiful way to connect—no pressure, just closeness. Water is so relaxing and beneficial. 

Pregnancy Pro Tip: If struggling with hemorrhoids add our herbal blend to the bath water, and maybe a few calendula flowers from the mix...to add to the romance.

3. Breast Play

Pregnancy hormones can make your breasts extra sensitive, which can be an unexpected source of pleasure! You definitely do not need to have sex in pregnancy to have pleasure.

To enhance the experience, use a Breast Massage Spray to stimulate an extra special spa-like feeling. 

BONUS POINTS for breast massage: touching the breasts in pregnancy can increase your ability to make milk for your baby after birth!

4. Love Notes & Verbal Affection

Emotional intimacy is just as important as physical. Try leaving little notes for each other, sending flirty texts, or verbally expressing what you love about one another. Sometimes this can be even more bonding than sex in pregnancy!

5. Spicy Storytelling 

If you're just not feeling it, and intercourse isn’t an option but you still want a sexual connection get creative. Try sharing fantasies, reading steamy stories together, or listening to spicy audiobooks like Dipsea. 

6. Date Nights at Home

Set the mood with candlelight, relaxing music, and uninterrupted quality time. Whether it’s a romantic dinner, a movie night snuggled on the couch, or a dance in the living room. This is you keeping the romance alive outside the bedroom which can enhance your connection.

[Want more Date Ideas for Expecting Couples? We have 10 FUN date ideas for you here]

7. Skin-to-Skin Cuddles

Sometimes, simple touch is the most powerful form of intimacy. Cuddle up, hold hands, or lay together with bare skin touching to release oxytocin (the love hormone) and deepen your emotional bond. Super simple, so relaxing and connecting! No intercourse needed. 

Pregnancy Intimacy Is Much More Than Just Sex 

Pregnancy is a time of transformation, but that doesn’t mean your love life has to take a backseat. Whether it’s through sensual touch, intimate conversation, or exploring new ways to pleasure each other, there are endless ways to stay close. Remember, this is a season of growth, love, and deepened connection—so embrace it, have fun, and enjoy the journey together!

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